A first date can be incredibly exciting and the beginning of something wonderful but it can also be very nerve-wracking. No matter how much you have been talking to someone online, actually meeting them in person is different. After all, this is the first real chance to test out your compatible chemistry and, with that kind of pressure, getting tongue-tied is only too easy! To help get the conversation starting and flowing, we have compiled a list of great first date light-hearted questions and some more serious ones to give you insight. Remember, this time is all about establishing a friendly connection, you want to see if your lifestyles could work together but don’t want it to feel like an interrogation! It’s all about finding a balance. Good luck from us!
♥What can I get you?
Whether you are off for a coffee (the most popular first date for our female members) or out for dinner (the male favorite, there is a good chance that there will be a bill to settle. And why should you offer to pay (or at least go halves)? Well, not only does it make your date feel special, it also shows kindness and dependability: two of the top ten most attractive traits for both men and women.
♥What makes you laugh?
The number one expectation, for both men and women for first date, was that their date would make them laugh. And what easier way to fulfil this wish then by knowing what it is that gets them giggling? Tell me the best thing about being in your profession? If you’ve been chatting online you probably already know what your companion does for a living, and even if you don’t, it’s bound to come up eventually! To avoid cliché, put an interesting spin on an old question. Asking your date what makes their job great gets you more interesting answers and gives them a chance to open up – a brilliant way to bond.
♥Are you a cat person or a dog person?
You love nothing better than throwing a tennis ball for your beloved dog Wilson but find cats unnervingly haughty. Your date, however, is allergic to dog hair and comes with a package with his shorthair Mr. Tibbles. Obviously, it’s not going to work out and it’s best to know early. The flip side, of course, is that you both discover a shared love for dogs or craze for cats, in which case the night just got started!
♥Where have you lived?
This one is a bit of a sneaky way to find out someone’s life story without seeming like you’re grilling them. Not only that, you get to find out if you share a passion for travel or if you both prefer the comforts of home…
♥Are you an indoor or outdoor person?
Again, this is one of those cliché first date questions designed to test whether you two have harmonious lifestyles. After all, shared leisure time is a big factor in any relationship. It’s a good idea to establish early on if you two prefer to spend Sundays with a duvet and an afternoon classic movie or if it will be off to Mont Snowdon with a rucksack, walking boots and a map..
♥What’s your happiest memory?
As with the first date questions above, this works for building a connection as it requires your date to tell you a story. That calls for you to listen and, as it turns out, good listeners make extremely attractive relationship partners..
What’s the scariest thing you’ve ever willingly done?
When you and your date share stories that don’t often get told it can create a feeling of intimacy. Start by dishing up your own tale, then ask your partner about a time when they successfully faced a challenge. This allows you both to feel a certain type of vulnerability that is ideal for forging connections. Just remember to try and keep it light-hearted: that story about snorkelling trip to Mauritius is perfect; shhh, tales about your ex are not cool!
♥What’s on your bucket list?
If you think that talking about past challenges runs the risk of bring up exes, it can be a good idea to flip the question and ask them instead about something that they are really looking forward to. You get the same chance to build a rapport by sharing intimacies, with the added bonus of building friendship through encouragement.
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